Monday, May 28, 2012

The Birthday Boy Fund

The Birthday Boy fund project is something that is near and dear to my heart. It's a charity that my husband developed to help trans people get top surgery. The initial development is to help him reach his goal of getting top surgery by his 30th birthday, but once that goal is met then others can apply and so on. He has come up with some great fund raise ideas (like a big girl beauty pageant, beer raffles, Photoshop contests, and even a hokie pokie-a-thon!). Surgeries for trans people are particularly expensive because it's not covered under insurance and few doctors will do them, so showing some support and checking out the site means a lot. Feel free to send him and email and he would be happy to answer any and all of your questions. 

Jim and I have be together 4 years and have been married for 2 of those years. He is the most caring, funny, creative and smart dudes I know. When most people think of transgender people, they think of men wanting to become women, but in Jim's case he was born a women and has become a man. In the LGBT community Jim would be known as an FTM (female to male). FTM is the most "politically" correct way to say it. Calling someone a lady dude, she-male, "it", or just ignoring it and calling an FTM "she", will be received as hurtful and or mean. Sticking with FTM (or male to female MTF), or just trans is the most universally excepted and appreciated. 

Top Surgery is a procedure were they remove your breasts and give you the chiseled chest of your dreams! There are some Youtube videos you can check out. 

Now I know this is a very Liberal topic and not everyone is going to agree with Jim's cause, but to me this is something that I think should be talked about openly and hopefully if you support this cause, please feel free to contact one of us, or post a link to his blog. Getting this charity out there for people to see is what we are trying to do and we appreciate all the help we can get. 


  1. Your husband is so inspiring! Good luck to him! x

  2. Thank you for sharing this! I read his story and can't imagine what he went through in his younger years. I'm so glad he has a wonderful, supportive wife like you now!